“Who put this here? I thought you’d have learnt to clean up after yourself by now.” Though not directed at anyone in particular, these are ‘fighting words.’

When 5 friends decide to vacation together, they’re brewing conflict. Neat freaks will clash with slobs, spenders with savers, and the prickly with everybody. If not handled correctly, tensions could easily escalate and relationships that took years to cultivate, broken. Here are some pointers on managing the friction:

1. Recite to self, “Humans are flawed.” There’s no perfect person out there. Expect people to make mistakes, step on toes, act selfishly, and just generally grate on your nerves. If you go on vacay expecting this, you’re not surprised or overwhelmed when stuff happens.
2. Handle all your interactions with care. Friendships are fragile. People remember hurtful words longer than they do kindnesses. When you “speak your mind,” choose your words wisely so you don’t hurt your friends.
3. Choose civility first. When you do get into it with your friend, choose to be good-mannered. There’s never a good reason to let loose. You think you’re making a point but may simply be making a spectacle of yourself.
4. Concede gracefully. When you’re wrong, apologize. And when you’re right, strive to make peace. Our lives are too short on this earth to make lifelong enemies. Live at peace with all.

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